We made it all the way to the end folks. Today's tip for having a more meaningful Christmas comes from Psalm 46:10, "Be still and know that I am God". Just be still and take the time to be with Him. Take time to know Him.
Slight detour. Did you happen to catch this Time article on the Advent Conspiracy? It is an interesting read.
Christmas is an interesting time and provides an interesting opportunity. As frustrating as all the commercial hype is, Christmas is still a time where hearts are open. People who may not normally be receptive to the Gospel may be more willing to have a conversation. Going to church on Christmas seems more likely than other times. In between the many secular Christmas/holiday songs on the radio, you will hear one clearly about Christ. Articles and movies on TV briefly highlight the spiritual unlike other times of the year. Yes, it seems that secularism and consumerism is taking over CHRISTmas, but it also seems we have a greater opportunity to share Christ with others this time of year. Even if they don't celebrate it, in some way they know that Christmas is supposed to be about more than gifts. What will you do this season to make Christ known?
Usually when I see that verse from Psalm 46 somewhere, it is just as I wrote it above. But there is an all important second half..."I will be exalted among the nations. I will be exalted in the earth." In the end, no campaign can take away Christ, at least not fully. God will be exalted. You and I are part of God's plan to reach to the ends of the earth. We need to exalt Him. This season, let the light of Christ shine bright. Invite someone to church with you on Thursday night.
Sharing God's love with another will give your Christmas meaning beyond measure.
Friday, December 18, 2009
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Tip #11...Knock it Off!!
Do you ever find yourself saying that to your kids?? "Knock it off"? I do. It is my way of telling them to quit the foolishness! Are you caught up in foolishness? Running around like a chicken with your head cut off, wondering how you will possibly get it all done? If you are, I have 2 things to say to you. One...go back and start at the beginning with these meaningful Christmas tips I have been posting. Second...knock it off! Literally. Knock things off your list. Stop the foolishness. I promise the earth won't stop turning, the kids will live, it will ALL be okay.
Kaleb asked me the other day what it meant when people say "what they don't know won't hurt them". We talked about several different examples but it got me thinking about some of the foolishness I get caught up in. No one but me will know I planned to fix 12 different kinds of cookies this year but only had time for 3. They won't know I wanted to get the living room painted but couldn't squeeze it in. Take an honest look at your list. What is essential and what isn't? Give yourself permission to knock some things off the list. Take a deep breath and move on.
I took a few days off from posting because I am working on all these things myself. Taking up time on the computer was one of things I had to "knock off" the last few days. Instead we invited someone over for dinner. We baked some cookies. We spent time together as a family. Yesterday we let a woman cut us in line at Walmart. {{gasp}} Little things, yet big in so many ways. Greg will tell you that I reach a certain point and then my stress spills over. It affects everyone because I snap at people and get agitated at the smallest things. It can get ugly. My goal this year is to never reach that point. The Lord is my helper...and yours!
Kaleb asked me the other day what it meant when people say "what they don't know won't hurt them". We talked about several different examples but it got me thinking about some of the foolishness I get caught up in. No one but me will know I planned to fix 12 different kinds of cookies this year but only had time for 3. They won't know I wanted to get the living room painted but couldn't squeeze it in. Take an honest look at your list. What is essential and what isn't? Give yourself permission to knock some things off the list. Take a deep breath and move on.
I took a few days off from posting because I am working on all these things myself. Taking up time on the computer was one of things I had to "knock off" the last few days. Instead we invited someone over for dinner. We baked some cookies. We spent time together as a family. Yesterday we let a woman cut us in line at Walmart. {{gasp}} Little things, yet big in so many ways. Greg will tell you that I reach a certain point and then my stress spills over. It affects everyone because I snap at people and get agitated at the smallest things. It can get ugly. My goal this year is to never reach that point. The Lord is my helper...and yours!
Friday, December 11, 2009
Tip #10- Movie Time
I heard the other day that Americans now watch an average of 31 hours of television a week. WOW! That is scary. My question is how do people have time to watch that much?? I have no smart remarks to make about TV watching. Rather, I want to talk movies. Christmas movies to be exact.
Do you have a favorite? Most of us have at least 1 that comes immediately to mind. For me it is the Muppet Christmas Carol. "Light the lamp, not the rat!!". If that means nothing to you, you need to go rent the movie. The Nativity Story that came out a couple of years ago was a great one to watch with the family. For kids, such a visual can really help them understand better.
Watching a movie isn't necessarily going to add tons of meaning to your Christmas. I know that. But in the midst of all the busyness, stop for a bit. Pop some popcorn. Gather the whole family up and snuggle in for a family movie night.
That's it. My whole tip for today.
Do you have a favorite? Most of us have at least 1 that comes immediately to mind. For me it is the Muppet Christmas Carol. "Light the lamp, not the rat!!". If that means nothing to you, you need to go rent the movie. The Nativity Story that came out a couple of years ago was a great one to watch with the family. For kids, such a visual can really help them understand better.
Watching a movie isn't necessarily going to add tons of meaning to your Christmas. I know that. But in the midst of all the busyness, stop for a bit. Pop some popcorn. Gather the whole family up and snuggle in for a family movie night.
That's it. My whole tip for today.
Thursday, December 10, 2009
Tip #9- The Christmas Letter
The Christmas cards and letters are slowly starting to trickle into our mailbox. It is the one time of year we hear from many out of town friends and family. I really enjoy reading what everyone has been up to, seeing the photos and how the kids have grown. We hang the photos so it is almost like you are near! We also pray for you as we read them over.
I am going to share one of my pet peeves with you. Ready? Getting Christmas cards with just a signature. Now this does not apply to local people I see regularly or friends/family we keep in touch with. Rather to those who we rarely have contact with any other time. It is such a let down. I am glad you thought enough to send us a card but I want more! How are you? What is new in your life? A signature tells me nothing more than you're alive. Now that I have that off my chest...
The flip side of getting the cards, letters and photos is sending them. I schedule Christmas card making sessions both in Rochester and Ransomville. This year, between the two locations, I had more than 25 stampers attend in October and again in November. I cut and prepared more than 600 cards! Do you know how many I have completed for my own personal use? Maybe 15. I have a bit to do still, lol. For many years now I have put my time and energy into writing a family Christmas letter. It is a task that hangs over my head a bit until I get it done but I have to tell you that I so enjoy writing it. It's like the ornaments. Writing the letter brings back memories. We get so busy with the day to day that it is easy to forget all that we accomplished, endured, overcame, learned, enjoyed, and experienced. Writing our letter gives me time to sit and reflect. Without fail, I am amazed at what transpires in a years time. The many ways we have been stretched and blessed. It is not a bragging session but rather an opportunity to share our lives with our loved ones. For a brief moment I hope to narrow the gap of time and miles that separate us.
I wish I was good at scrapbooking or journaling. I like the concept of both but don't do either of them. This blog and our Christmas letters sort of serve to fulfill both those things. We keep a copy of the letters and someday they may be fun for us to go back and read. Even if I never sent them, I would still write them. They help to remind me that God is faithful. That life is rich. It reminds me to be thankful for many, many things and to offer praise to the giver of those gifts. It helps prepare my heart for the celebration of Christmas.
I encourage you to write a family letter if you don't already. Even if it is just for yourself. Reflect. Be encouraged. Be thankful. Give praise.
I am going to share one of my pet peeves with you. Ready? Getting Christmas cards with just a signature. Now this does not apply to local people I see regularly or friends/family we keep in touch with. Rather to those who we rarely have contact with any other time. It is such a let down. I am glad you thought enough to send us a card but I want more! How are you? What is new in your life? A signature tells me nothing more than you're alive. Now that I have that off my chest...
The flip side of getting the cards, letters and photos is sending them. I schedule Christmas card making sessions both in Rochester and Ransomville. This year, between the two locations, I had more than 25 stampers attend in October and again in November. I cut and prepared more than 600 cards! Do you know how many I have completed for my own personal use? Maybe 15. I have a bit to do still, lol. For many years now I have put my time and energy into writing a family Christmas letter. It is a task that hangs over my head a bit until I get it done but I have to tell you that I so enjoy writing it. It's like the ornaments. Writing the letter brings back memories. We get so busy with the day to day that it is easy to forget all that we accomplished, endured, overcame, learned, enjoyed, and experienced. Writing our letter gives me time to sit and reflect. Without fail, I am amazed at what transpires in a years time. The many ways we have been stretched and blessed. It is not a bragging session but rather an opportunity to share our lives with our loved ones. For a brief moment I hope to narrow the gap of time and miles that separate us.
I wish I was good at scrapbooking or journaling. I like the concept of both but don't do either of them. This blog and our Christmas letters sort of serve to fulfill both those things. We keep a copy of the letters and someday they may be fun for us to go back and read. Even if I never sent them, I would still write them. They help to remind me that God is faithful. That life is rich. It reminds me to be thankful for many, many things and to offer praise to the giver of those gifts. It helps prepare my heart for the celebration of Christmas.
I encourage you to write a family letter if you don't already. Even if it is just for yourself. Reflect. Be encouraged. Be thankful. Give praise.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Tip #8: Be Relational
This weekend we heard about the wise men who traveled to see the baby Jesus so that they could worship him and present him gifts. The wise men gave some pretty incredible gifts didn't they? But God is the ultimate gift giver. He gave us a person in the form of a small baby. A saviour. The gift of the possibility of an eternal relationship with himself. WOW! How can we top that? We can't is the simple answer. But we can use it as a model. We can give loads of gifts, we can spend lots of money but perhaps the best gift we can give is ourselves.
The gift of time and relationship is not always easy. It is often inconvienent. I suspect that is why perhaps we try to buy our way out of it sometimes. But we were made to worship God and to be in fellowship with him and others. We slowly shrivel without that relationship factor.
How can you give the gift of time? How can you deepen your relationships with others or perhaps start some new ones? Don't make it complicated or you won't follow through. Ask me how I know?!
Joshua has become quite the hunter/sportsman. He enjoys going out with my brother to shoot ducks or targets. He practices with his bow in the yard. This year he asked for an Airsoft gun (they shoot rubber bb's and are more for fun than sport). I was unsettled about his request but if you know Josh, you know his list is never long. I don't want to squash is enthusiasm for hunting or being a sportsman but I did not like the idea of a bunch of boys shooting at each other, even if it was just for fun. The boys have Airsoft wars similar to paintball wars. After much thought and discussion, we decided that instead of purchasing the gun he asked for, we would buy a membership at the local sportsman club. Greg and Josh can shoot skeet or trap, they can practice archery or partcipate in a variety of activities they offer at the club. While this will allow Josh to do some of the things he enjoys doing, it is more a gift of time. Father/son time. I think this will be much more meaningful than his original request. It will cost more time than money but money can not buy time.
If there are relationships you really want to invest in, think of ways you can spend time doing something they enjoy. Join a bowling league together, join scouts with your child, take a craft or art class together, join the Y as a family and go swimming together.
Maybe you are looking to do something on a smaller scale for a friend or neighbor. You could invite someone over for dinner. I bet we all know someone who might be lonely this season. Maybe they lost a loved one, went through a divorce, are empty nesters for the first time or they just live alone. What? Your house is a mess? You don't have the time? Then how about dropping by a friends house with a hot pizza and a bottle of soda this week?
Ask God to show you a person or family that you can gift with your time. Don't stop there, ask him to give you ideas for how to give yourself relationally to them. He'll answer and you will be blessed. I know it.
The gift of time and relationship is not always easy. It is often inconvienent. I suspect that is why perhaps we try to buy our way out of it sometimes. But we were made to worship God and to be in fellowship with him and others. We slowly shrivel without that relationship factor.
How can you give the gift of time? How can you deepen your relationships with others or perhaps start some new ones? Don't make it complicated or you won't follow through. Ask me how I know?!
Joshua has become quite the hunter/sportsman. He enjoys going out with my brother to shoot ducks or targets. He practices with his bow in the yard. This year he asked for an Airsoft gun (they shoot rubber bb's and are more for fun than sport). I was unsettled about his request but if you know Josh, you know his list is never long. I don't want to squash is enthusiasm for hunting or being a sportsman but I did not like the idea of a bunch of boys shooting at each other, even if it was just for fun. The boys have Airsoft wars similar to paintball wars. After much thought and discussion, we decided that instead of purchasing the gun he asked for, we would buy a membership at the local sportsman club. Greg and Josh can shoot skeet or trap, they can practice archery or partcipate in a variety of activities they offer at the club. While this will allow Josh to do some of the things he enjoys doing, it is more a gift of time. Father/son time. I think this will be much more meaningful than his original request. It will cost more time than money but money can not buy time.
If there are relationships you really want to invest in, think of ways you can spend time doing something they enjoy. Join a bowling league together, join scouts with your child, take a craft or art class together, join the Y as a family and go swimming together.
Maybe you are looking to do something on a smaller scale for a friend or neighbor. You could invite someone over for dinner. I bet we all know someone who might be lonely this season. Maybe they lost a loved one, went through a divorce, are empty nesters for the first time or they just live alone. What? Your house is a mess? You don't have the time? Then how about dropping by a friends house with a hot pizza and a bottle of soda this week?
Ask God to show you a person or family that you can gift with your time. Don't stop there, ask him to give you ideas for how to give yourself relationally to them. He'll answer and you will be blessed. I know it.
Monday, December 7, 2009
Tip #7 Celebrate Traditions
What memories do you have of Christmas? Is it certain sights, sounds or smells? I bet many of your memories have to do with traditions your family celebrated. Perhaps it was certain cookies your mom always baked or foods she always cooked. Maybe they have to do with rituals you had when you bought or decorated your tree, went to church or opened gifts.
I spent 6 years of my youth growing up in Germany where much of the Christmas celebration takes place on Christmas Eve. Christmas Eve service was one of the few times my Dad actually went to church with us. Mom would cook up a really nice meal for dinner and then we would have to get all spiffed up in nice clothes. We lived off base in a small village but would drive onto the base to attend Catholic Mass. When Mass ended (which was by far the longest service ever, lol), we would drive home. It wasn't just any drive home though. We earnestly looked to the skies to see if we could see evidence of Santa's Sleigh. We always managed to see at least one red light blinking in the sky...a sure sign that Santa indeed was in the area (compliments of the Air Force base!). When we arrived home, our tree would be decked out with presents. I remember feeling so lucky that Santa came to Germany first as I knew he didn't arrive in the US until the next day. And clearly it MUST have been Santa because no one was home to put all those gifts under our tree. Years later I figured out it was our downstairs neighbors who were Santa's helpers while we were in church but, as a kid, it was one magical night. We would stay up until the wee hours opening our gifts. I don't recall many of the gifts I received but I hold dear those times of being together, celebrating Christmas.
Traditions are a wonderful thing. They can help us build precious memories. Here are some of my favorite traditions...
1)Yearly Ornament Exchange Party. On Friday night I drove to Rochester to participate in the 10th annual exchange. I started it all those years ago as a way to spend time with friends and kick off Christmas. We have shared some tears but definitely much laughter. With all our moves, the guest list and format changed a little bit every year. This year I was officially only a guest, no longer the host. There were 4 of us on Friday night that have been together from the beginning. I cherish those memories and each year when I hang those ornaments I am reminded of our friendship and faith.
Here is the adorable ornament I got on Friday. Love it!
2)Picnic dinner by the light of the tree. The boys were not yet 2 and 4 when we first started this tradition. At some point before Christmas, we get take out, usually Chinese, set out a blanket on the floor in front of the tree and have a picnic. The only lights on in the room are those on the tree. We listen to Christmas music. We talk. We eat. We enjoy time together. The boys have already asked when it will be this year.
3) On Christmas morning they boys are not allowed to wake us before 7 and the only thing they can open is their stockings. Now they are old enough to make breakfast for the adults and once breakfast is done, we open gifts. It takes a very long time since only one person at a time can open something. We savor this time.
4) Attending the candle light service on Christmas Eve. It is one of my favorite services of the entire year!
5) Each year the boys get an ornament for the tree. I try to buy ornaments that depict something about the year. When Kaleb was obsessed with tractors as a kid, we gave him a John Deere ornament. When Josh played baseball, we got one with a glove and a bat. One year it was Batman, another year a Lego one. We decorate the tree as a family and the boys still enjoy putting up their special ones.
Traditions build memories. They don't need to be fancy. If you have some, keep them going. If you don't, start one this year.
Tip #6-Go to Church!
I had planned to post this tip towards the end as an encouragement to take your family to a Christmas Eve service. I changed my mind.
Tip # 6 for enjoying a more meaningful Christmas is to go to church.
Yesterday the boys and I went to church. Usually we attend the Saturday evening service which is much lower in attendance and more laid back. But for Advent we have a special choir assembled that is singing at the Sunday morning services. Pastor Bill is preaching a 4 week series called the "Advent Conspiracy" and it is good stuff. My heart was so blessed by the entire service. If Advent is a time of preparation, a looking forward to the celebration of the birth of Christ, then I am already on the road. My mind and heart are tracking. I am choosing to take my focus off the "stuff" of Christmas and work on the tips I have been sharing. It wouldn't be right if I just threw out all this stuff and then didn't put some of it in practice myself, right?!
As I sat in church I was mindful of those not present. Perhaps they were sick or traveling. Some of them honestly have trouble committing to church on a weekly basis. Whatever the reason may be (I hope it wasn't to go shopping, lol), they missed out. Truly they did. They missed the incredible worship, choir, and sermon. They missed an opportunity to be in fellowship, to be encouraged. They missed an opportunity to worship God and affirm once again that He is ruler of their hearts.
I still encourage you and your family to attend a Christmas Eve service. If it is not already part of your Christmas routine, start this year! Show your kids that God comes first. That God is the reason we even celebrate. Better yet, don't miss the last 2 weeks of Advent. Go. Prepare your hearts.
On a side note: Are you one of the C&E type church goers, you know, only go on Christmas and Easter? Be different this year, start early. Otherwise it is like only reading the end of the story. You miss a lot of good stuff leading up to the grand finale!
And one last thing...when you go to church, go expecting something. Where two or more are gathered in His name, there He is. The God of the universe is there and wants to meet with you. Don't miss that incredible opportunity.
Tip # 6 for enjoying a more meaningful Christmas is to go to church.
Yesterday the boys and I went to church. Usually we attend the Saturday evening service which is much lower in attendance and more laid back. But for Advent we have a special choir assembled that is singing at the Sunday morning services. Pastor Bill is preaching a 4 week series called the "Advent Conspiracy" and it is good stuff. My heart was so blessed by the entire service. If Advent is a time of preparation, a looking forward to the celebration of the birth of Christ, then I am already on the road. My mind and heart are tracking. I am choosing to take my focus off the "stuff" of Christmas and work on the tips I have been sharing. It wouldn't be right if I just threw out all this stuff and then didn't put some of it in practice myself, right?!
As I sat in church I was mindful of those not present. Perhaps they were sick or traveling. Some of them honestly have trouble committing to church on a weekly basis. Whatever the reason may be (I hope it wasn't to go shopping, lol), they missed out. Truly they did. They missed the incredible worship, choir, and sermon. They missed an opportunity to be in fellowship, to be encouraged. They missed an opportunity to worship God and affirm once again that He is ruler of their hearts.
I still encourage you and your family to attend a Christmas Eve service. If it is not already part of your Christmas routine, start this year! Show your kids that God comes first. That God is the reason we even celebrate. Better yet, don't miss the last 2 weeks of Advent. Go. Prepare your hearts.
On a side note: Are you one of the C&E type church goers, you know, only go on Christmas and Easter? Be different this year, start early. Otherwise it is like only reading the end of the story. You miss a lot of good stuff leading up to the grand finale!
And one last thing...when you go to church, go expecting something. Where two or more are gathered in His name, there He is. The God of the universe is there and wants to meet with you. Don't miss that incredible opportunity.
Saturday, December 5, 2009
Tip #5-Banish the Scooge...Decorate!
This one may be more for me. Everytime we have moved, which has been 8 times in 15 1/2 years, I have to reinvent my decorating. Each house and space is different and sometimes things don't work in the new space like they did in the old. Once we moved to this house my umph to decorate flew south and honestly has yet to return. I have a bit of a love/hate thing going on with our house. If I could live in the kitchen I would. The rest of it...not so thrilling. I have finally decided that life is too short to live in a house you don't like so slowly we are tackling the rooms I have issue with. We are 95% complete on the boys bathroom spruce up. A little bit of paint goes a long way.
It has all spilled over into Christmas decorating and my attitude has been rather Scroogish. I am aiming to improve things this year. Why?? Because...
...I love to watch the boys unpack "their" box of ornaments. I give them an ornament each year and when they are grown they will have a start to their own decorating.
...I love the memories that come to mind when I place certain ornaments on the tree
...We have the most precious nativity set, given to us when we left Parkminster Pres in 2001. It is one of the best gifts we have ever been given. The woman who selected it has since passed away but every year when I set it up I am reminded of her, the church and the ministry that took place there. Even though decorating has been sparser the last 2 years, that set always made it out of the box!
...we laugh about the time our tree lost all its needles the day after we bought it or the time the tree fell over, scattering ornaments everywhere just before people came for our open house.
...we enjoy family togetherness when we put up the tree, hopefully creating new memories
We purchased a nativity set early on in our marriage. One way we help the boys anticipate the birth of Jesus is by stashing the baby Jesus figurine away until the 25th. The empty manger is a reminder of what is to come. We have never done the birthday cake for Jesus thing but that is another great way to celebrate. These are just a couple of ways to help younger children grasp that Christmas isn't just about presents. Rather that it is about the greatest gift, the "presence" of Jesus in our lives.
So, put on that Christmas CD, heat up some hot chocolate and scatter some decorating joy around your house. Enjoy recalling memories from years past. Be reminded about how richly you are blessed. Make new memories as you go. Weave those threads into a meaningful tapestry this Christmas.
It has all spilled over into Christmas decorating and my attitude has been rather Scroogish. I am aiming to improve things this year. Why?? Because...
...I love to watch the boys unpack "their" box of ornaments. I give them an ornament each year and when they are grown they will have a start to their own decorating.
...I love the memories that come to mind when I place certain ornaments on the tree
...We have the most precious nativity set, given to us when we left Parkminster Pres in 2001. It is one of the best gifts we have ever been given. The woman who selected it has since passed away but every year when I set it up I am reminded of her, the church and the ministry that took place there. Even though decorating has been sparser the last 2 years, that set always made it out of the box!
...we laugh about the time our tree lost all its needles the day after we bought it or the time the tree fell over, scattering ornaments everywhere just before people came for our open house.
...we enjoy family togetherness when we put up the tree, hopefully creating new memories
We purchased a nativity set early on in our marriage. One way we help the boys anticipate the birth of Jesus is by stashing the baby Jesus figurine away until the 25th. The empty manger is a reminder of what is to come. We have never done the birthday cake for Jesus thing but that is another great way to celebrate. These are just a couple of ways to help younger children grasp that Christmas isn't just about presents. Rather that it is about the greatest gift, the "presence" of Jesus in our lives.
So, put on that Christmas CD, heat up some hot chocolate and scatter some decorating joy around your house. Enjoy recalling memories from years past. Be reminded about how richly you are blessed. Make new memories as you go. Weave those threads into a meaningful tapestry this Christmas.
Friday, December 4, 2009
Tip #4 Be Selflessly Generous
Perspective. Sometimes I can get to feeling sorry for myself. I bet you never do that, right? Then I see someone in need or pain. My perspective changes. Going to Romania changed my perspective. A lot. Being here in Ransomville has changed my perspective.
Sadly, I often go through my days with shades on. Those shades of selfishness or busyness that keep me from seeing those in need around me. Sometimes I wear them on purpose. Again, probably not something you do, but I will be honest and tell you I do. It is easier not to see the need and pain because then I don't have to do anything about it. Not something I am proud of.
You've probably heard that saying "God ain't finished with me yet." Boy am I glad that is a fact! I have asked Him more in the last couple of years to show me things. Show me a need I can do something about. He is so faithful to answer. Sometimes it is as simple as a card, other times it has been a Wegmans gift card, other times it is a matter of paying someone a visit. Since this is obviously not a natural part of my being, I have to be intentional about giving selflessly. It is something I want to become better at and I want to model it to my boys.
Giving selflessly brings tremendous joy. The opposite of what we may think sometimes. My mind tells me I will be inconvenienced if I do x, y or z. I don't have time. Or money. But when I do it anyway, the return is always greater than my inconvenience. It is in those moments that God whispers to me, He blesses me. My perspective is changed.
How can you be selflessly generous this Christmas? I have a few ideas...
-buy a Biosand filter for a family in Africa. It only costs $85. You can impact a family with clean water for 20 years! We are doing this at church and hope to be able to purchase 10 filters, maybe more. I am so excited to support our friends in Jars of Clay with this project. I posted about it here if you want to read more.
-sponsor a child though Child Care Ministries
-volunteer at a food pantry this Christmas
-ask your kids if they know someone at school who could use help this Christmas. You will be surprised what they know about parents being laid off of jobs, illness, divorce situations. Talk about ways to help and do it as a family.
Ask God to show you a need and how you can meet it. I promise you it will change your perspective and give greater meaning to your season.
Sadly, I often go through my days with shades on. Those shades of selfishness or busyness that keep me from seeing those in need around me. Sometimes I wear them on purpose. Again, probably not something you do, but I will be honest and tell you I do. It is easier not to see the need and pain because then I don't have to do anything about it. Not something I am proud of.
You've probably heard that saying "God ain't finished with me yet." Boy am I glad that is a fact! I have asked Him more in the last couple of years to show me things. Show me a need I can do something about. He is so faithful to answer. Sometimes it is as simple as a card, other times it has been a Wegmans gift card, other times it is a matter of paying someone a visit. Since this is obviously not a natural part of my being, I have to be intentional about giving selflessly. It is something I want to become better at and I want to model it to my boys.
Giving selflessly brings tremendous joy. The opposite of what we may think sometimes. My mind tells me I will be inconvenienced if I do x, y or z. I don't have time. Or money. But when I do it anyway, the return is always greater than my inconvenience. It is in those moments that God whispers to me, He blesses me. My perspective is changed.
How can you be selflessly generous this Christmas? I have a few ideas...
-buy a Biosand filter for a family in Africa. It only costs $85. You can impact a family with clean water for 20 years! We are doing this at church and hope to be able to purchase 10 filters, maybe more. I am so excited to support our friends in Jars of Clay with this project. I posted about it here if you want to read more.
-sponsor a child though Child Care Ministries
-volunteer at a food pantry this Christmas
-ask your kids if they know someone at school who could use help this Christmas. You will be surprised what they know about parents being laid off of jobs, illness, divorce situations. Talk about ways to help and do it as a family.
Ask God to show you a need and how you can meet it. I promise you it will change your perspective and give greater meaning to your season.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Tip #3: Give More
I know I just told you to spend less. No, I am not losing my mind. Tip 3 for how to enjoy a more meaningful Christmas is to give more. I didn't say go buy more, I said give more.
Remember that "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." -John 3:16
God gave the ultimate gift. He is the mac daddy of gift givers! He has modeled giving in the greatest sense of the word.
How can you and I give more? By giving gifts of kindness. Give gifts that spread the joy you have because you are a child of the King!
Do you bake cookies? Make an extra batch and share it with a neighbor.
Do you like to craft? Encourage your kids to help you make a card or gift for someone.
Smile at the tired cashier at the grocery store.
While we are talking about the grocery store, let someone get ahead of you in line.
Bring the bell ringer a hot cup of coffee and thank them for what they are doing.
If you have the means, plow/snow blow out someones driveway when it snows. Better yet, make it someone you don't know.
You get the idea, right? Find ways to spread cheer and kindness. Nothing too complicated but it does require some thought and intention. Giving thought to someone else means you aren't absorbed in your own schtuff, even if just for a short while.
And maybe, just maybe, you will make them wonder...why are you so cheerful? Something is clearly different, what is it? That may lead to a conversation. Maybe you will share with them the real meaning of Christmas and the joy you have because of it. Just maybe.
Remember that "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." -John 3:16
God gave the ultimate gift. He is the mac daddy of gift givers! He has modeled giving in the greatest sense of the word.
How can you and I give more? By giving gifts of kindness. Give gifts that spread the joy you have because you are a child of the King!
Do you bake cookies? Make an extra batch and share it with a neighbor.
Do you like to craft? Encourage your kids to help you make a card or gift for someone.
Smile at the tired cashier at the grocery store.
While we are talking about the grocery store, let someone get ahead of you in line.
Bring the bell ringer a hot cup of coffee and thank them for what they are doing.
If you have the means, plow/snow blow out someones driveway when it snows. Better yet, make it someone you don't know.
You get the idea, right? Find ways to spread cheer and kindness. Nothing too complicated but it does require some thought and intention. Giving thought to someone else means you aren't absorbed in your own schtuff, even if just for a short while.
And maybe, just maybe, you will make them wonder...why are you so cheerful? Something is clearly different, what is it? That may lead to a conversation. Maybe you will share with them the real meaning of Christmas and the joy you have because of it. Just maybe.
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
Tip #2 Spend Less
So, we have already made it through Black Friday and Cyber Monday. My email box is being flooded with internet offers to the tune of 30-50 a day. The adds are taking up more space than the news these days. Spend, spend, spend. Rock bottom prices, unheard of deals. How can we resist? The pull is great, isn't it?
Then there are the kids. Kaleb started his wish list months ago. Joshua got savvy this year and cut and pasted pictures into a word document just so we know exactly what he wants. His own mini Christmas catalog if you will, complete with prices and descriptions. The commercialism has our kids very hyped up. I can already feel the anticipation growing. I get daily reminders of how many days are left until the "big day". Oh the pressure and guilt that creeps in at the mere thought of disappointing them.
The statistics are staggering. The billions spent on gifts. The months spent paying off the bills. You know that finances are one of the biggest stressors in life, right? Bad finances lead many into divorce. I never completely shake the stress of finances, and it is not for lack of trying...really hard. Sometimes debt is unavoidable despite our best efforts. Christmas overspending however is completely avoidable. Don't do it! Commit yourself to spending less this year. Commit to staying within your means.
This year I took out my Christmas money in cash. No credit cards. It is helping me not to overspend. I know what I have and when it is gone.
One of my good friends from high school has 6 daughters and lives on a modest budget. Several years ago I asked her how they handle Christmas. What she told me has stuck with me ever since, though I can not say I have been able to follow her lead. She said that Jesus received 3 gifts according to scripture...gold, frankincense and myrrh. If 3 gifts were good enough for the baby Jesus, then 3 gifts were good enough for her girls. Each one received one large, one medium and one small gift. Period. Imagine if our kids knew that in advance. That would take care of a lot of the expectation end of things. And I imagine we would find fewer gifts tossed in the corner just days after Christmas. I love the connection to the nativity as well.
Another mom I spoke with only allows her kids to have 5 items at a time on their wish lists. That is a great idea! If you want to add something new, something else needs to come off the list. WOW! Decisions, decisions.
It is not just about spending less. It is about not getting eaten up by the greed monster. That ugly greed and stuff monster that clouds our ability to embrace the real Christmas. The real Jesus. Gifts are not bad. I really enjoy giving gifts. And receiving them too, who doesn't?? Just make them a part of your Christmas, not THE focus of it. Chose to spend less, stress less, in order that you can focus more on having a meaningful Christmas.
Kind of ironically, the next tip will be on giving more. Huh? Stay tuned.
Then there are the kids. Kaleb started his wish list months ago. Joshua got savvy this year and cut and pasted pictures into a word document just so we know exactly what he wants. His own mini Christmas catalog if you will, complete with prices and descriptions. The commercialism has our kids very hyped up. I can already feel the anticipation growing. I get daily reminders of how many days are left until the "big day". Oh the pressure and guilt that creeps in at the mere thought of disappointing them.
The statistics are staggering. The billions spent on gifts. The months spent paying off the bills. You know that finances are one of the biggest stressors in life, right? Bad finances lead many into divorce. I never completely shake the stress of finances, and it is not for lack of trying...really hard. Sometimes debt is unavoidable despite our best efforts. Christmas overspending however is completely avoidable. Don't do it! Commit yourself to spending less this year. Commit to staying within your means.
This year I took out my Christmas money in cash. No credit cards. It is helping me not to overspend. I know what I have and when it is gone.
One of my good friends from high school has 6 daughters and lives on a modest budget. Several years ago I asked her how they handle Christmas. What she told me has stuck with me ever since, though I can not say I have been able to follow her lead. She said that Jesus received 3 gifts according to scripture...gold, frankincense and myrrh. If 3 gifts were good enough for the baby Jesus, then 3 gifts were good enough for her girls. Each one received one large, one medium and one small gift. Period. Imagine if our kids knew that in advance. That would take care of a lot of the expectation end of things. And I imagine we would find fewer gifts tossed in the corner just days after Christmas. I love the connection to the nativity as well.
Another mom I spoke with only allows her kids to have 5 items at a time on their wish lists. That is a great idea! If you want to add something new, something else needs to come off the list. WOW! Decisions, decisions.
It is not just about spending less. It is about not getting eaten up by the greed monster. That ugly greed and stuff monster that clouds our ability to embrace the real Christmas. The real Jesus. Gifts are not bad. I really enjoy giving gifts. And receiving them too, who doesn't?? Just make them a part of your Christmas, not THE focus of it. Chose to spend less, stress less, in order that you can focus more on having a meaningful Christmas.
Kind of ironically, the next tip will be on giving more. Huh? Stay tuned.
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Meaningful Christmas Tip #1
Welcome to December! Does the mere thought that we are in the month of Christmas make your heart skip a beat? Do you immediately start going through your mental list of what needs to get done in the next 25 days? For the last 2 years I have thought about the stress of the holidays and how to balance it with celebrating the real Christmas. The Christmas that honors the birth of Christ, not the commercialism our society has made it into. To be honest, I have not been too successful. But I want to keep trying. I also have a lingering question...am I doing a good job teaching my boys about the true Christmas? So, I am working on some practical ideas to help me and my family more fully embrace Christ this season. Maybe you find yourself in a similar place. If so, this is as much for you as it is for us. Will you join us in this journey?
Tip #1: Advent Devotions
Advent is a time of preparation. This preparation is not the kind that involves getting your shopping done, cookies baked, cards sent out on time and the like. This is a preparation of the heart. A time of anticipating the birth of Christ. A time to reflect on the amazing gift God gave us when he sent his son to walk the earth and become the sacrifice for you and me.
One way to do that is with devotional readings specifically for the season. You can find Advent devotionals in bookstores. Your church may give them out for free (ours does). You can find resources on-line. You can simply walk through the New Testament narrations found in the gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. If you have kids, try to find readings that are easy for them to understand.
Take a few moments after dinner to read a devotion and share your thoughts around the table. It doesn't need to take long but it will model to your kids that this time is special. That we are chosing to spend time focusing on Jesus, anticipating his birth, preparing for a celebration.
Advent started on Sunday so it is not too late to get started! If you want some help with scriptures, check out this article from Focus on the Family from 2000. It also gives ideas for incorporating an Advent wreath into your celebrations. Ahhh, dinner by candlelight. Who cares if what is on the plate is mac n cheese?? Candlelight automatically makes things more special!
I'll be back tomorrow with tip #2.
Tip #1: Advent Devotions
Advent is a time of preparation. This preparation is not the kind that involves getting your shopping done, cookies baked, cards sent out on time and the like. This is a preparation of the heart. A time of anticipating the birth of Christ. A time to reflect on the amazing gift God gave us when he sent his son to walk the earth and become the sacrifice for you and me.
One way to do that is with devotional readings specifically for the season. You can find Advent devotionals in bookstores. Your church may give them out for free (ours does). You can find resources on-line. You can simply walk through the New Testament narrations found in the gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John. If you have kids, try to find readings that are easy for them to understand.
Take a few moments after dinner to read a devotion and share your thoughts around the table. It doesn't need to take long but it will model to your kids that this time is special. That we are chosing to spend time focusing on Jesus, anticipating his birth, preparing for a celebration.
Advent started on Sunday so it is not too late to get started! If you want some help with scriptures, check out this article from Focus on the Family from 2000. It also gives ideas for incorporating an Advent wreath into your celebrations. Ahhh, dinner by candlelight. Who cares if what is on the plate is mac n cheese?? Candlelight automatically makes things more special!
I'll be back tomorrow with tip #2.
Monday, November 30, 2009
Wrapping Up November
I am stepping off the merry go round for a minute. Today is the last day of November. That means it is my brother's birthday. Love ya, Chris!! We just returned from spending Thanksgiving with them. It had shamefully been more than a year since we had been to their house. It was good to be there, good to rest, good to see the boys (nephew #2 turned 2 yesterday!), good to catch up on life, good to do a bit of hunting and good to do a bit of shopping. Just to be clear, Greg, Josh and Chris did the hunting. Melissa and I did the shopping. The guys came home empty handed, the girls did not :).
Thursday was a gorgeous day so while we cooked and prepared, the boys did some 4 wheeling and playing outside. Chris used the mower to bury the boys in leaves. Oh to be a kid again!
The nephews love their cousins! Sometimes more than Kaleb would like, lol. It's all good though!
Our other big November news is that Greg has a new woman in his life. Gasp! In a momentary lapse of my sanity I agreed to get a dog. Greg and Josh had been slowly wearing me down. I finally got the point where I felt guilty for saying no, for depriving my boys of the opportunity to have a pet in their lives. So, everyone, meet Daisy Mae...
Daisy is a 10 month old black lab. A family at church recently adopted her sister and when they heard Daisy was also up for adoption, they hooked us up. Tip: if you are thinking about getting a dog, be sure to let the dog lovers in your life know. They will go above and beyond until you find one. They won't rest until the connection is complete. We have some dog crazy friends, I tell ya, lol.
Anyway, the woman who bought her later decided she wasn't up for the challenge of a raising a puppy so the breeder took her back. She is a very nice dog (but I won't admit to it if pressed!). She is already housebroken, doesn't jump much, can follow some simple commands and loves to be around us. We had to break her of the habit she had to jump onto the furniture. After several failed ideas, someone told us to use mouse traps. Two snapped traps later the lesson was learned! She's a bright one. Now we leave the un-set traps on the sofa when we leave for work and just the sight of them seems to be enough to keep her off. We still have to find a way to curb some of the barking and get her to walk better on the leash. And I need to find a way to get her to stop following me everywhere. Drives me crazy, especially when I am cooking.
But you know that this adventure we have embarked on couldn't go on without some craziness! Last week we discovered she was in heat! We didn't even have her long enough to make plans to get her fixed. grumble, grumble grumble. So, now Daisy Mae is sporting some Daisy Dukes.
This was Daisy snuggling up with Chris' dog, Sheldie. They got along very well and with her blue pants on she was easy to identify!
Tomorrow is December already. I have been toying with the idea of doing a 12 day series of tips on how to have a meaningful Christmas. So, come back tomorrow for tip #1.
Thursday was a gorgeous day so while we cooked and prepared, the boys did some 4 wheeling and playing outside. Chris used the mower to bury the boys in leaves. Oh to be a kid again!
The nephews love their cousins! Sometimes more than Kaleb would like, lol. It's all good though!
Our other big November news is that Greg has a new woman in his life. Gasp! In a momentary lapse of my sanity I agreed to get a dog. Greg and Josh had been slowly wearing me down. I finally got the point where I felt guilty for saying no, for depriving my boys of the opportunity to have a pet in their lives. So, everyone, meet Daisy Mae...
Daisy is a 10 month old black lab. A family at church recently adopted her sister and when they heard Daisy was also up for adoption, they hooked us up. Tip: if you are thinking about getting a dog, be sure to let the dog lovers in your life know. They will go above and beyond until you find one. They won't rest until the connection is complete. We have some dog crazy friends, I tell ya, lol.
Anyway, the woman who bought her later decided she wasn't up for the challenge of a raising a puppy so the breeder took her back. She is a very nice dog (but I won't admit to it if pressed!). She is already housebroken, doesn't jump much, can follow some simple commands and loves to be around us. We had to break her of the habit she had to jump onto the furniture. After several failed ideas, someone told us to use mouse traps. Two snapped traps later the lesson was learned! She's a bright one. Now we leave the un-set traps on the sofa when we leave for work and just the sight of them seems to be enough to keep her off. We still have to find a way to curb some of the barking and get her to walk better on the leash. And I need to find a way to get her to stop following me everywhere. Drives me crazy, especially when I am cooking.
But you know that this adventure we have embarked on couldn't go on without some craziness! Last week we discovered she was in heat! We didn't even have her long enough to make plans to get her fixed. grumble, grumble grumble. So, now Daisy Mae is sporting some Daisy Dukes.
This was Daisy snuggling up with Chris' dog, Sheldie. They got along very well and with her blue pants on she was easy to identify!
Tomorrow is December already. I have been toying with the idea of doing a 12 day series of tips on how to have a meaningful Christmas. So, come back tomorrow for tip #1.
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Opportunity
By now you all know I have a second blog. Actually, this blog is my second one, my first blog is my stamping blog called Inky Doodles. There is a link in the sidebar. I don't frequently mix the two but sometimes they are like a PBJ sandwich and are hard to separate.
Many of you know that I have been a demonstrator with Stampin' Up since 2005. In September they made some major changes to the Independent Demo Agreement and for many reasons I did not feel that I could sign it, so I stepped down. You have heard the saying "When God closes a door, he opens a window". Well, in my case he opened the window first, making it easier to shut the door on my life as a demonstrator. In mid August, two weeks prior to the changes at Stampin' Up, I was offered an opportunity to join the design team for a stamp company called Cornish Heritage Farms. This company is owned by a couple originally from England, now residing in Montana. They are a lovely Christian couple and I did not hesitate to say "yes" to their offer! This company has a very large collection of stamps, in many different styles. They have agreements with Thomas Kinkade, Tom Allen, GM, and several other artists. They release new stamps 2-3 times per week! I am currently working with 3 of the lines they carry and can choose any additional releases that appeal to me. I have had the opportunity to write tutorials, product reviews, as well as blog posts for the company blog. Needless to say, this has been keeping me quite busy. I am loving every minute of it. It has opened up opportunities that I probably would not have had if I had remained with Stampin' Up. I am so glad God knows what is best for me, even when I don't always see it at the time!
The latest opportunity came when I was given the chance to be the Guest Blogger for a challenge blog called Stampin' Sisters in Christ. Cornish Heritage Farms is sponsoring their challenge this week and I am honored to be able to share a bit about my life and faith with a new audience. I honestly have moments when I think I should sell all my stamping supplies because it seems like foolishness in the grand scheme of things. Does God really care about stamping?? The answer is he cares about what I care about. He can use whatever we have to give him. I know that. I have seen it. A simple card made of paper and ink can bring comfort or encouragement or joy. When I send cards out I send them off with a prayer. God takes it from there.
Today was my day as the Guest Blogger. If you would like to read the article, check it out here.
Thanks for letting me share this stuff with you. I am no rock star (though Greg thinks so, he's great...but biased) but it is exciting stuff!
Many of you know that I have been a demonstrator with Stampin' Up since 2005. In September they made some major changes to the Independent Demo Agreement and for many reasons I did not feel that I could sign it, so I stepped down. You have heard the saying "When God closes a door, he opens a window". Well, in my case he opened the window first, making it easier to shut the door on my life as a demonstrator. In mid August, two weeks prior to the changes at Stampin' Up, I was offered an opportunity to join the design team for a stamp company called Cornish Heritage Farms. This company is owned by a couple originally from England, now residing in Montana. They are a lovely Christian couple and I did not hesitate to say "yes" to their offer! This company has a very large collection of stamps, in many different styles. They have agreements with Thomas Kinkade, Tom Allen, GM, and several other artists. They release new stamps 2-3 times per week! I am currently working with 3 of the lines they carry and can choose any additional releases that appeal to me. I have had the opportunity to write tutorials, product reviews, as well as blog posts for the company blog. Needless to say, this has been keeping me quite busy. I am loving every minute of it. It has opened up opportunities that I probably would not have had if I had remained with Stampin' Up. I am so glad God knows what is best for me, even when I don't always see it at the time!
The latest opportunity came when I was given the chance to be the Guest Blogger for a challenge blog called Stampin' Sisters in Christ. Cornish Heritage Farms is sponsoring their challenge this week and I am honored to be able to share a bit about my life and faith with a new audience. I honestly have moments when I think I should sell all my stamping supplies because it seems like foolishness in the grand scheme of things. Does God really care about stamping?? The answer is he cares about what I care about. He can use whatever we have to give him. I know that. I have seen it. A simple card made of paper and ink can bring comfort or encouragement or joy. When I send cards out I send them off with a prayer. God takes it from there.
Today was my day as the Guest Blogger. If you would like to read the article, check it out here.
Thanks for letting me share this stuff with you. I am no rock star (though Greg thinks so, he's great...but biased) but it is exciting stuff!
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Blessings by the Box
I thought I would shock my 5 readers by posting twice in a week, lol! We are having a slight warm up this week. I wouldn't call it an Indian Summer but we are in the upper 50's, low 60's this week and it is glorious. No jackets, hats or gloves, just sunshine and falling leaves.
On Sunday we enjoyed the potluck following the church service. Potlucks are interesting, aren't they? Some are tempted to assign the dishes to ensure a good variety, but that would be a pot-plan, not a potluck! Who cares if most of the dishes are dessert?? Not me. Now, in truth I might care if the table was dominated by squash and lima beans but it is the unknown that makes it fun. Our kitchen crew usually does a big main dish and this time it was chicken and stuffing, yummy stuff. There was plenty of variety and this time, yes, we were loaded with desserts. Brownies, pumpkin pie, carrot cake and more, mmmm. The best part was that the fellowship hall was packed out! We had to scramble to add more tables. Food and fellowship are always a good combo to draw the crowds.
Later Sunday afternoon, we had another unplanned opportunity. I have told you about Farmer Butch, the man with the fruit orchards. He is an incredible man of faith, with a big heart. We are currently collecting money to purchase Thanksgiving boxes through Angel Food Ministries. These boxes will be given to families in need in our church and community. Well, Butch offered up a box of apples to go with each food box, the only catch was the apples needed to be picked. So, I made an announcement at the potluck and several people showed up to help. Butch had a trailer hooked up to the tractor and we got a fun, bumpy ride out to the orchard. We decided that 25 half bushel baskets of apples would cover our needs. Being the well-equipped farmer, he gave us straps to hook onto the baskets so we could work hands free. Those straps were the bomb!! We were picking big, beautiful Rome apples and in 15 minutes (maybe even less), we had every basket filled to the top. We hopped back onto the trailer and enjoyed an apple on the way back to the barn. But the fun didn't stop there. Butch let us run the apples through the washer/polisher machine. I really wish I had thought to bring my camera. This machine is an oldie and so cool! The guys carefully emptied the baskets onto the conveyor belt at one end, the apples traveled up the belt where any leaves or debris were removed, into the washer and out onto these foam rollers that polished the apples clean. From there they rolled down onto a rotating platform where we packed them back into the baskets. We joked how it felt a bit like that episode of I love Lucy where they were working on the assembly line at the chocolate factory. Once they were all packed up, Butch put them into the cooler where they will stay until we need to deliver them. The whole process only took one hour but every bit of it was so fun. I like that the boys get to be exposed to so many different things and in this case, learn what it takes to get an apple to market and be part of serving someone in need. Butch shared a bit of his heart and why he wanted to donate the apples. It was a blessing to be part of blessing someone else. In a couple of weeks we will deliver a big box of food, along with a big box of apples to several families. When God's people work together, needs are met. It's a beautiful thing!
If you have never heard of Angel Food Ministries, I encourage you to check it out. Each month they offer a box of food for $30.00. The retail cost of the food averages around $65-80 and will feed a family of 4 for a week. There are also convenience/senior meals, produce boxes and meat boxes available. The best part, if you eat, you qualify! We can all use a little help on our budgets these days. The boxes are also a wonderful way to bless a family in need. If you spend $60 on groceries at the store, use that $60 to buy 2 Angel Food boxes, one for yourself and one to share. You can go to their site and enter your zip code to find a church near you that distributes Angel Food. At church, we distributed our first boxes this month and it was indeed a blessing. And the food is good. This month we are enjoying strip steaks, eggs, fajitas, ham steaks, frozen veggies and more. The only item in our box that we don't like...lima beans. Lucky for us, we found someone who likes them so we are happy to pass them along ;).
Hugs from the R-ville Harps!
On Sunday we enjoyed the potluck following the church service. Potlucks are interesting, aren't they? Some are tempted to assign the dishes to ensure a good variety, but that would be a pot-plan, not a potluck! Who cares if most of the dishes are dessert?? Not me. Now, in truth I might care if the table was dominated by squash and lima beans but it is the unknown that makes it fun. Our kitchen crew usually does a big main dish and this time it was chicken and stuffing, yummy stuff. There was plenty of variety and this time, yes, we were loaded with desserts. Brownies, pumpkin pie, carrot cake and more, mmmm. The best part was that the fellowship hall was packed out! We had to scramble to add more tables. Food and fellowship are always a good combo to draw the crowds.
Later Sunday afternoon, we had another unplanned opportunity. I have told you about Farmer Butch, the man with the fruit orchards. He is an incredible man of faith, with a big heart. We are currently collecting money to purchase Thanksgiving boxes through Angel Food Ministries. These boxes will be given to families in need in our church and community. Well, Butch offered up a box of apples to go with each food box, the only catch was the apples needed to be picked. So, I made an announcement at the potluck and several people showed up to help. Butch had a trailer hooked up to the tractor and we got a fun, bumpy ride out to the orchard. We decided that 25 half bushel baskets of apples would cover our needs. Being the well-equipped farmer, he gave us straps to hook onto the baskets so we could work hands free. Those straps were the bomb!! We were picking big, beautiful Rome apples and in 15 minutes (maybe even less), we had every basket filled to the top. We hopped back onto the trailer and enjoyed an apple on the way back to the barn. But the fun didn't stop there. Butch let us run the apples through the washer/polisher machine. I really wish I had thought to bring my camera. This machine is an oldie and so cool! The guys carefully emptied the baskets onto the conveyor belt at one end, the apples traveled up the belt where any leaves or debris were removed, into the washer and out onto these foam rollers that polished the apples clean. From there they rolled down onto a rotating platform where we packed them back into the baskets. We joked how it felt a bit like that episode of I love Lucy where they were working on the assembly line at the chocolate factory. Once they were all packed up, Butch put them into the cooler where they will stay until we need to deliver them. The whole process only took one hour but every bit of it was so fun. I like that the boys get to be exposed to so many different things and in this case, learn what it takes to get an apple to market and be part of serving someone in need. Butch shared a bit of his heart and why he wanted to donate the apples. It was a blessing to be part of blessing someone else. In a couple of weeks we will deliver a big box of food, along with a big box of apples to several families. When God's people work together, needs are met. It's a beautiful thing!
If you have never heard of Angel Food Ministries, I encourage you to check it out. Each month they offer a box of food for $30.00. The retail cost of the food averages around $65-80 and will feed a family of 4 for a week. There are also convenience/senior meals, produce boxes and meat boxes available. The best part, if you eat, you qualify! We can all use a little help on our budgets these days. The boxes are also a wonderful way to bless a family in need. If you spend $60 on groceries at the store, use that $60 to buy 2 Angel Food boxes, one for yourself and one to share. You can go to their site and enter your zip code to find a church near you that distributes Angel Food. At church, we distributed our first boxes this month and it was indeed a blessing. And the food is good. This month we are enjoying strip steaks, eggs, fajitas, ham steaks, frozen veggies and more. The only item in our box that we don't like...lima beans. Lucky for us, we found someone who likes them so we are happy to pass them along ;).
Hugs from the R-ville Harps!
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Whoa!
I am such a blog slacker!
Time is again, or should I say still, whirring by at an incredible pace. We have had signs of snow already! Ack!! I haven't even fully enjoyed fall yet. We better get crackin' with my list of fall things to do. There are foliage walks to go on, cider to drink, butternut squash soup to be cooked. The changing leaves are beautiful at the moment and the crisp air is nice.
Josh is nearing the end of his football season. The coach now has him playing on both the offensive and defensive lines. At yesterday's game he only sat out for 2 plays the whole game. He is tired, sweaty and smelly by the end. I had to drive home with the windows down yesterday, peeeyewwww, lol. Look for #54 in the photo below, that is our boy...
Our Pig-a-palooza event last month was a smashing success. For the first time in the 3 years we have been here, we had incredible weather for the event. We had the largest turn out to date, we figure there were somewhere around 500 people that attended. The best part was the people lingered, enjoying the animals, antique cars, food, games, music and fireworks.
October is Pastor Appreciation month, did you know that? I think a week would suffice, even a day, but it is in fact all month long. Check out the sign on our church lawn...
Isn't that great? The folks here in Ransomville sure do know how to bless their pastors! Almost everyday this month they have received a phone call from someone letting them know they appreciate them. Priceless words of encouragement. Then there are the cards in the mail, the gift certificate for an oil change, the gift certificate for dinner. The first Sunday they even invited the wives to come forward and we were presented with a bouquet of roses.
I can not tell you the last time I got flowers (in fairness to Greg I tell him not to buy them for me, I am too practically minded about the money). It is wonderful to know that we are appreciated as well. The boys wondered when it was their turn, lol.
On Sunday we wrap the month up with an all-church pot luck after service. Yumm-O.
If you haven't already, do something this week to show your pastor appreciation. Or the person in your life that spiritually encourages you. A kind word of encouragement will lift their spirits.
I hope my next post isn't a month away! In the mean time, hugs to you all!
Time is again, or should I say still, whirring by at an incredible pace. We have had signs of snow already! Ack!! I haven't even fully enjoyed fall yet. We better get crackin' with my list of fall things to do. There are foliage walks to go on, cider to drink, butternut squash soup to be cooked. The changing leaves are beautiful at the moment and the crisp air is nice.
Josh is nearing the end of his football season. The coach now has him playing on both the offensive and defensive lines. At yesterday's game he only sat out for 2 plays the whole game. He is tired, sweaty and smelly by the end. I had to drive home with the windows down yesterday, peeeyewwww, lol. Look for #54 in the photo below, that is our boy...
Our Pig-a-palooza event last month was a smashing success. For the first time in the 3 years we have been here, we had incredible weather for the event. We had the largest turn out to date, we figure there were somewhere around 500 people that attended. The best part was the people lingered, enjoying the animals, antique cars, food, games, music and fireworks.
October is Pastor Appreciation month, did you know that? I think a week would suffice, even a day, but it is in fact all month long. Check out the sign on our church lawn...
Isn't that great? The folks here in Ransomville sure do know how to bless their pastors! Almost everyday this month they have received a phone call from someone letting them know they appreciate them. Priceless words of encouragement. Then there are the cards in the mail, the gift certificate for an oil change, the gift certificate for dinner. The first Sunday they even invited the wives to come forward and we were presented with a bouquet of roses.
I can not tell you the last time I got flowers (in fairness to Greg I tell him not to buy them for me, I am too practically minded about the money). It is wonderful to know that we are appreciated as well. The boys wondered when it was their turn, lol.
On Sunday we wrap the month up with an all-church pot luck after service. Yumm-O.
If you haven't already, do something this week to show your pastor appreciation. Or the person in your life that spiritually encourages you. A kind word of encouragement will lift their spirits.
I hope my next post isn't a month away! In the mean time, hugs to you all!
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Goin' Crazy
This has been one crazy week and it isn't even over yet! I like to feel like I have accomplished things at the end of the day. Every day this week I have accomplished tons and yet still go to be with tons left undone.
Partly, it is adjusting to working full time. Church has been extremely busy as we are getting ready for our annual Pig-a-Palooza event. The copier is smokin' due to all the copies I am running, lol! This will be the 5th year of this community event. There will be pony rides, a bounce house, climbing wall, live music, bow hunters, Chicken BBQ and more. I am sure I will post pictures since I seem to be the designated photographer.
Then there's the boys. They are still adjusting to school, homework, chores and the like. Of course they don't do those things in a vacuum. Homework requires our help, chores require our oversight, school requires us to get up at the crack of dawn too. Did I say I was looking forward to a routine again? WHAT was I thinking??
Josh is in football and now the games have started. I don't know who is responsible for their schedule this year but most of the games are away and most of the locations are an hour's drive. They had their first game on Wednesday and it tied up 5 hours. Poor Josh didn't get home until 8:30 and then had homework to boot. Here is a shot of him after a scrimmage last weekend. He plays offensive line at the moment.
And then there is the call of the produce! I thought I was mostly done with my canning, except for a couple more batches of salsa for Kaleb. But then came the call of more free peaches. The kind perfect for canning. So, off we went to glean more fruit. Greg and I were up until 11 the other night putting up quart jars of sliced peaches. Again, a first for me. I was glad to have a helper because these were a bit time consuming. But look at the result of our labor...
Aren't they beautiful?? We did 18 jars in total. One broke in the canner. On the last batch I cooked some whole vanilla beans in the light sugar syrup to see if we could mimic the vanilla peaches we tasted at the Mennonite market this summer. Oh Baby!! We opened a jar at dinner tonight and it was unanimous...these peaches ROCK! You know what that means, don't you? Probably more canning in my near future!
Partly, it is adjusting to working full time. Church has been extremely busy as we are getting ready for our annual Pig-a-Palooza event. The copier is smokin' due to all the copies I am running, lol! This will be the 5th year of this community event. There will be pony rides, a bounce house, climbing wall, live music, bow hunters, Chicken BBQ and more. I am sure I will post pictures since I seem to be the designated photographer.
Then there's the boys. They are still adjusting to school, homework, chores and the like. Of course they don't do those things in a vacuum. Homework requires our help, chores require our oversight, school requires us to get up at the crack of dawn too. Did I say I was looking forward to a routine again? WHAT was I thinking??
Josh is in football and now the games have started. I don't know who is responsible for their schedule this year but most of the games are away and most of the locations are an hour's drive. They had their first game on Wednesday and it tied up 5 hours. Poor Josh didn't get home until 8:30 and then had homework to boot. Here is a shot of him after a scrimmage last weekend. He plays offensive line at the moment.
And then there is the call of the produce! I thought I was mostly done with my canning, except for a couple more batches of salsa for Kaleb. But then came the call of more free peaches. The kind perfect for canning. So, off we went to glean more fruit. Greg and I were up until 11 the other night putting up quart jars of sliced peaches. Again, a first for me. I was glad to have a helper because these were a bit time consuming. But look at the result of our labor...
Aren't they beautiful?? We did 18 jars in total. One broke in the canner. On the last batch I cooked some whole vanilla beans in the light sugar syrup to see if we could mimic the vanilla peaches we tasted at the Mennonite market this summer. Oh Baby!! We opened a jar at dinner tonight and it was unanimous...these peaches ROCK! You know what that means, don't you? Probably more canning in my near future!
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Back to School
Summer is over. The buses are running. The new sneakers can finally be worn. Ah yes, the start of another school year. Kaleb is now a 6th grader, officially a middle schooler. Josh is an 8th grader. As I do every year, I made them pose for a picture before the bus came. I needed to use the flash since the sun wasn't exactly up yet. I was wishin' I wasn't up yet, lol. So, here are our two fine, young men...
Loaded down with stuff already. Poor Josh had 3 bags to carry. One for the football gear he needs for practice after school. Yes, you read that correctly. Josh has signed on to play modified football this year. Kaleb decided to sit the season out and I think he has missed it somewhat.
Kaleb was very nervous about entering a new building with new rules. He now has to change classes every period. He managed just fine, no major incidents to report.
Last week we had the chance to go to a Buffalo Bills preseason game against the Detroit Lions. Our friend Lynn gave us 4 tickets she got from work. She was going to take the guys but at the last minute had to cancel, so I went along. It was a perfect night for watching a game. We had awesome seats, mid way up on the 40 yard line. All I will say about the score is that it is going to be a loooooong season if you are a Bills fan! Here we are at the end of the game.
One of our old Young Life kids is now a Buffalo Jill cheerleader. We didn't get a chance to talk with her but we could see her on the field doing her thing. Fun stuff!
I am off to bed. Tomorrow is another early morning.
Friday, August 28, 2009
Ministry
Here is the definition of "ministry" according to Webster...
Main Entry: min·is·try
Pronunciation: \ˈmi-nə-strē\
Function: noun
Inflected Form(s): plural min·is·tries
Date: 14th century
1 : ministration
2 : the office, duties, or functions of a minister
3 : the body of ministers of religion : clergy
4 : a person or thing through which something is accomplished : agency, instrumentality
5 : the period of service or office of a minister or ministry
6 often capitalized a : the body of ministers governing a nation or state from which a smaller cabinet is sometimes selected b : the group of ministers constituting a cabinet
7 a : a government department presided over by a minister b : the building in which the business of a ministry is transacted
I have spent much of the last few days thinking about that word and what it actually means. I thought Webster might be a good place to start. I think it is a pretty lousy, at best incomplete, definition. It seems to me that ministry is way more than how Webster defines it. Well, at least it is in our world.
I am finding out, or rather being reminded, that ministry is anything God calls you to do. Sometimes it is things you want to do. Or things you are good at. Other times they are silly things. Or hard things. Or things that make no sense, at least for now. It is an open ended job description. There is fine print at the bottom that reads "...and other things deemed necessary by the boss".
This is one look at ministry this past week...
Five guys covered in drywall dust! Pastor Bill is in the yellow shirt. In person he looked a lot like the ghost of Christmas past, lol. They have been working on a renovation project at church, creating one large room for the kids ministry. It started in April and is finally nearing completion. Sometimes ministry includes blowing drywall dust out of your nose or standing in a 3' ditch laying pipe.
Sometimes ministry is traveling 7 hours with a van full of teens to Lake Placid for a camping weekend. Greg and 18 other teens and adults pulled out of the church parking lot this afternoon bound for a weekend of fun and fellowship. (yes, that means I am home alone but I have a to do list longer than there are hours in the day)
Maybe asking "what is ministry?" is the wrong question. Perhaps instead I should be asking "am I willing to do what God calls me to do?". Or "am I willing to go where God wants me to go?".
Have a great weekend!
Main Entry: min·is·try
Pronunciation: \ˈmi-nə-strē\
Function: noun
Inflected Form(s): plural min·is·tries
Date: 14th century
1 : ministration
2 : the office, duties, or functions of a minister
3 : the body of ministers of religion : clergy
4 : a person or thing through which something is accomplished : agency, instrumentality
5 : the period of service or office of a minister or ministry
6 often capitalized a : the body of ministers governing a nation or state from which a smaller cabinet is sometimes selected b : the group of ministers constituting a cabinet
7 a : a government department presided over by a minister b : the building in which the business of a ministry is transacted
I have spent much of the last few days thinking about that word and what it actually means. I thought Webster might be a good place to start. I think it is a pretty lousy, at best incomplete, definition. It seems to me that ministry is way more than how Webster defines it. Well, at least it is in our world.
I am finding out, or rather being reminded, that ministry is anything God calls you to do. Sometimes it is things you want to do. Or things you are good at. Other times they are silly things. Or hard things. Or things that make no sense, at least for now. It is an open ended job description. There is fine print at the bottom that reads "...and other things deemed necessary by the boss".
This is one look at ministry this past week...
Five guys covered in drywall dust! Pastor Bill is in the yellow shirt. In person he looked a lot like the ghost of Christmas past, lol. They have been working on a renovation project at church, creating one large room for the kids ministry. It started in April and is finally nearing completion. Sometimes ministry includes blowing drywall dust out of your nose or standing in a 3' ditch laying pipe.
Sometimes ministry is traveling 7 hours with a van full of teens to Lake Placid for a camping weekend. Greg and 18 other teens and adults pulled out of the church parking lot this afternoon bound for a weekend of fun and fellowship. (yes, that means I am home alone but I have a to do list longer than there are hours in the day)
Maybe asking "what is ministry?" is the wrong question. Perhaps instead I should be asking "am I willing to do what God calls me to do?". Or "am I willing to go where God wants me to go?".
Have a great weekend!
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Blueberries, Raspberries, Peaches...OH MY!!
In the three weeks since I quit my day job (get it? My (1) day job?? Yes, I crack myself up!!) I have embraced the homemaker inside me again. Oh the joy of doing what you are meant to do! I put in a 40 hour week at church, hosted a Grill & Greet for 50 folks after our evening worship service last night, and still had spring in my step to do more. It reminds me of tithing. Tithing you ask? Yes! When we take care of our needs first, we are often left with little to give to the Lord. But, when we give God our best, our first fruits, we find that he stretches what is left to cover our needs and often, then some. It makes no sense to the rational mind, it is a faith thing. This past week, I gave God my best and he stretched my time and energy to cover so much more.
So I present to you the latest line-up in my kitchen...
Peach Vanilla Jam, Raspberry Jam, Bread & Butter Pickles and Blueberry Lime Jam.
I have actually been at this for the last 2 weeks. Somewhere around 55 jars total. I ought to buy stock in the Ball company, lol!
The best part is they all have a story to go with them.
Josh, Kaleb and I spent one morning picking blueberries, a first for us. We had a fun time eating, laughing and talking while we picked. We tried to figure out if we could decipher Korean or Chinese or whatever language was being spoken in the next row. We couldn't so we made up our own ideas. After we finished picking berries, we shared a Stromboli for lunch. I chipped my front tooth on a fork. It was a memorable day!
The raspberries came from Pastor Bill's garden. The Lowery's were in Michigan for their eldest son's wedding so they hired Kaleb to take care of the chickens and the garden. We got chowed by mosquitoes while we picked berries. Then Kaleb spotted a snake in the bushes. That was it, I quit! We picked enough berries for one batch of jam. We shared half the jars with the Lowery's since it really was a collaboration. Now that we've tasted it, we kind of wish we hadn't, lol, it is pretty awesome stuff!
Pickles were a first for me. The boys and I ventured to the Niagara Falls City Market for another first time experience. Joshua helped feed the food processor as we sliced our way through about 45 cups of cucumbers. At one point the bowl of the processor was so full, it started to slice off parts of the underside of my processor lid. Yikes! Luckily we stopped it before it got too damaged. The family had a tasting when it was all done and Joshua discovered he likes pickles now!
After church this morning, we took an unplanned trip to the Raby's orchards to glean more peaches. Butch lets us pick peaches off the ground for free and we filled three 5 gallon buckets in about 20 minutes...in the rain. A lady from church joined us and then came back to the house to help me cook up 2 batches of jam. We talked and laughed. It was a good opportunity to get to know her better.
Ministry in the mundane. Pastor Bill reminded us last night that all of life can be worship if we do it to give God glory. So, these past two weeks have been about giving God glory while canning. It is a good thing I don't sell my goods, they would surely be priceless!
So I present to you the latest line-up in my kitchen...
Peach Vanilla Jam, Raspberry Jam, Bread & Butter Pickles and Blueberry Lime Jam.
I have actually been at this for the last 2 weeks. Somewhere around 55 jars total. I ought to buy stock in the Ball company, lol!
The best part is they all have a story to go with them.
Josh, Kaleb and I spent one morning picking blueberries, a first for us. We had a fun time eating, laughing and talking while we picked. We tried to figure out if we could decipher Korean or Chinese or whatever language was being spoken in the next row. We couldn't so we made up our own ideas. After we finished picking berries, we shared a Stromboli for lunch. I chipped my front tooth on a fork. It was a memorable day!
The raspberries came from Pastor Bill's garden. The Lowery's were in Michigan for their eldest son's wedding so they hired Kaleb to take care of the chickens and the garden. We got chowed by mosquitoes while we picked berries. Then Kaleb spotted a snake in the bushes. That was it, I quit! We picked enough berries for one batch of jam. We shared half the jars with the Lowery's since it really was a collaboration. Now that we've tasted it, we kind of wish we hadn't, lol, it is pretty awesome stuff!
Pickles were a first for me. The boys and I ventured to the Niagara Falls City Market for another first time experience. Joshua helped feed the food processor as we sliced our way through about 45 cups of cucumbers. At one point the bowl of the processor was so full, it started to slice off parts of the underside of my processor lid. Yikes! Luckily we stopped it before it got too damaged. The family had a tasting when it was all done and Joshua discovered he likes pickles now!
After church this morning, we took an unplanned trip to the Raby's orchards to glean more peaches. Butch lets us pick peaches off the ground for free and we filled three 5 gallon buckets in about 20 minutes...in the rain. A lady from church joined us and then came back to the house to help me cook up 2 batches of jam. We talked and laughed. It was a good opportunity to get to know her better.
Ministry in the mundane. Pastor Bill reminded us last night that all of life can be worship if we do it to give God glory. So, these past two weeks have been about giving God glory while canning. It is a good thing I don't sell my goods, they would surely be priceless!
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Derailed
Do you ever feel like your life is derailed? Off track?? That some how you are on the wrong road? If you haven't, then I want to talk to you and eek out every last secret you have!
At the end of my last post I shared how I was starting a new job. And so I did. My first day was interesting to say the least. I had a pit in my gut all day that I was not where I was supposed to be. To be honest, I had many uneasy feelings for the 2 weeks prior. I dismissed it as nervousness. I knew I was mourning my life as I knew it. I told myself I needed to suck it up. My family needed me to take this job, to bring in more income. On that first day, I had conversations with 2 different staff. One was new to the agency and the other had been there several years. These were people I had never met before. They both basically told me to run as fast as I could. What? Totally unsolicited words. I was partially discouraged and partially scared out of my mind! These people were God's way of telling me that I was in the wrong place, on the wrong road.
What do you do when you realize you are not where you are supposed to be? Or that you are doing something you aren't supposed to be doing? Do you continue to walk down the road and hope it gets better? How crazy would I be to quit a job I just started? I was in a terrible fix. What about the money? The boys both need braces, debts are mounting, college is not too far away, the economy is bad....oh those whispers from the devil. I went to bed praying hard that God would give me the right response. If I am really derailed, help me to get back on track. If I am just nervous, give me peace. When I woke up the next day I had a firm resolve that I needed to quit. I was clearly not where God wanted me to be. As soon as I said my intentions out loud, the peace followed. So, I drove in to the agency and resigned on my second day. It was one of the harder things I have had to do. Throw in a bit of humiliation for added measure.
My job at church had not yet been filled, so I went back. With one change. Tomorrow I start the job on a full-time basis. The pay is way less than I would have made. But if the Lord has called me to this place, to this job and ministry, then he will also take care of our needs. His purposes and plans are sometimes beyond my understanding. He is asking me to trust and obey. I am trying. And just in case I needed a little affirmation, an unusually large number of people came by the church office that day and rejoiced over my return. Aw shucks!
What have I learned?
--it is better to be on God's road than my own path
--God's still small voice is much less painful than the bricks he uses to get our attention
--When Jesus condemned them in Matthew 6:30, saying "oh you of little faith", he meant me
--peace is priceless
--Mercy and grace are precious gifts
--God is good and loves me more than I know
--some lessons take years to learn
I wish that falling down was only for toddlers. I wish I was a faster/better student in God's University. I wish I wasn't so bent on being independent. But more than all of that, I am grateful that the God of the universe loves me and calls me his child. That he dusts me off when I fall. That he continues to urge me on in the race.
"Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus." Philippians 3:12-14.
At the end of my last post I shared how I was starting a new job. And so I did. My first day was interesting to say the least. I had a pit in my gut all day that I was not where I was supposed to be. To be honest, I had many uneasy feelings for the 2 weeks prior. I dismissed it as nervousness. I knew I was mourning my life as I knew it. I told myself I needed to suck it up. My family needed me to take this job, to bring in more income. On that first day, I had conversations with 2 different staff. One was new to the agency and the other had been there several years. These were people I had never met before. They both basically told me to run as fast as I could. What? Totally unsolicited words. I was partially discouraged and partially scared out of my mind! These people were God's way of telling me that I was in the wrong place, on the wrong road.
What do you do when you realize you are not where you are supposed to be? Or that you are doing something you aren't supposed to be doing? Do you continue to walk down the road and hope it gets better? How crazy would I be to quit a job I just started? I was in a terrible fix. What about the money? The boys both need braces, debts are mounting, college is not too far away, the economy is bad....oh those whispers from the devil. I went to bed praying hard that God would give me the right response. If I am really derailed, help me to get back on track. If I am just nervous, give me peace. When I woke up the next day I had a firm resolve that I needed to quit. I was clearly not where God wanted me to be. As soon as I said my intentions out loud, the peace followed. So, I drove in to the agency and resigned on my second day. It was one of the harder things I have had to do. Throw in a bit of humiliation for added measure.
My job at church had not yet been filled, so I went back. With one change. Tomorrow I start the job on a full-time basis. The pay is way less than I would have made. But if the Lord has called me to this place, to this job and ministry, then he will also take care of our needs. His purposes and plans are sometimes beyond my understanding. He is asking me to trust and obey. I am trying. And just in case I needed a little affirmation, an unusually large number of people came by the church office that day and rejoiced over my return. Aw shucks!
What have I learned?
--it is better to be on God's road than my own path
--God's still small voice is much less painful than the bricks he uses to get our attention
--When Jesus condemned them in Matthew 6:30, saying "oh you of little faith", he meant me
--peace is priceless
--Mercy and grace are precious gifts
--God is good and loves me more than I know
--some lessons take years to learn
I wish that falling down was only for toddlers. I wish I was a faster/better student in God's University. I wish I wasn't so bent on being independent. But more than all of that, I am grateful that the God of the universe loves me and calls me his child. That he dusts me off when I fall. That he continues to urge me on in the race.
"Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus." Philippians 3:12-14.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
Chillin' at the Lake
Well, summer is now complete! We have just returned from our annual week long stay on Cayuga Lake. The weather was par for this year, rainy and cooler, but we still had a great time.
The boys did lots of tubing again this year. Every year we try the skiing thing and Josh was up longer than any previous year. The pieces are coming together for him. Kaleb just pops out of the water and this year he finally caught the "bug". In years past, they ski (or attempt to ski) to appease us, but with much apprehension. This year Kaleb couldn't get enough. He started to go over the wake and really got over his fear of falling in the middle of the lake. It was so exciting to watch!
Relaxing was the name of the game most of the week. The boys did a lot of stone skipping and by the end of the week this is what they looked like...
too tired to even stand, lol! They threw rocks while laying down on the beach.
We finally got the chance to use the jet ski that our friends gave us when we moved. Last summer was consumed with the kitchen reno so there wasn't time. Over the winter we had it tuned up and we got all the necessary paper work and boaters safety courses completed just before vacation. We had lots of fun zipping around the lake! 
The rain held off on a few nights so we got a fire going and roasted marshmallows. Chris also rigged up his annual firework display. Fireworks over the lake are spectacular! 
Of course, there was lots of fishing. Josh and Chris got up early most mornings to fish and were very successful this year. The first day out Josh got a lake trout and Chris cooked up some yummy Laker Cakes with it (think crab cakes). Josh also caught an 8.5 lb brown trout that we enjoyed for dinner on Wednesday. On one of the last outings Josh and Chris both caught matching 10.5 lb brown trouts. Chris let his go and Josh's is in our freezer for another day. They discovered a secret weapon but I can't tell you, I have been sworn to secrecy!
The boys did lots of tubing again this year. Every year we try the skiing thing and Josh was up longer than any previous year. The pieces are coming together for him. Kaleb just pops out of the water and this year he finally caught the "bug". In years past, they ski (or attempt to ski) to appease us, but with much apprehension. This year Kaleb couldn't get enough. He started to go over the wake and really got over his fear of falling in the middle of the lake. It was so exciting to watch!
Relaxing was the name of the game most of the week. The boys did a lot of stone skipping and by the end of the week this is what they looked like...
too tired to even stand, lol! They threw rocks while laying down on the beach.
When we came back from a trip into Ithaca, we found Melissa and little Logan asleep on the dock...too precious
At some point Josh got a pretty bad case of poison ivy and it may require a doctor visit. Poor guy!
At some point Josh got a pretty bad case of poison ivy and it may require a doctor visit. Poor guy!
In other news...I start a full-time job tomorrow morning. I am having a hard time getting excited about it to be honest. Even though I have worked part time for years, I consider myself mostly a stay at home mom. I love that job! It is what I feel called to do. I like being a home maker and being here for the boys. But we can't afford for me to stay home any longer. So, tomorrow I will pack a lunch and head off to work. I will be teaching independent living skills to persons with brain injuries. It will involve quite a bit of travel since the meetings all take place in their homes. I appreciate your prayers this week!
Hope you all are well! Thanks for visiting.
Sunday, July 12, 2009
Family Camp
Howdy, friends and family! We have just just returned from a week of family camp at Lighthouse Christian Camp. It was a wonderful time but now I need a vacation to recoup from our vacation! You know how that goes. Although we have dropped in on family camp in the past, we have never stayed for the week. Greg was asked to lead music for the morning worship time and he was originally going to commute since camp is only a half hour away. But, the Hunt family graciously offered us a place to lay our heads so we were able to take it all in.
Josh was only able to join us for 2 days and on Sunday I dropped him off for a week at Boy Scout camp. He had a great time!! He was able to complete requirements for 4 merit badges and he also got a Junior Shooting Team badge he really wanted. To get the badge they had to shoot at a target and get a minimum of 35 points, out of a possible 50. He used a .22 at 50 feet and got 5 bulls eyes for a perfect score!! He even saved his target sheet to show us. Uncle Chris will be so proud! He returned home with only minor scrapes but one huge smile!
Kaleb stayed at family camp but we didn't see him much. They keep the kids very busy with activities and any spare time was spent playing four square. I watched several times and all I can say is that they don't play that game like I remember! There are a gazillion different rules these days. It was the perfect kind of week for Kaleb, lots of sports and running around. He met up with some old friends and made new ones. You know it was a great week when they don't want to leave. He and Greg had a chance to get out on a sailboat the last day.
It was an interesting week, a time where old and new things collided. Lots of folks from Pearce church attend FC so it was a good time to reconnect with old friends.
The Harp family and the Kuhlkin family have been friends for many years, going way back to when they attended Parkminster Pres together. Greg, Jon and Thom were in scouts together with Mike and Dave. Greg and Mike have both worked for Young Life. They even applied for their first ministry jobs at the same church. Mike got the job and shortly there after we moved to Florida to work at First Christian. Fast forward a few years to Greg working as the youth pastor of Pearce church and Mike doing Young Life in Rochester. They often paired up to do ministry together and were a great source of encouragement to each other. Who can better understand a wacky youth guy than another wacky youth guy?! Fast forward a bit more and you find us at Ransomville FMC and now Mike is leading the youth at Pearce. This past week Mike lead the teens at family camp and once again we all were together. Thursday nights of family camp are reserved for a baptismal service and Mike and Greg were asked to participate in some of the baptisms...as a team. Isn't it cool to see how God weaves together our lives? I am sure if you got Mom, Dad, Char and Roe Kuhlkin together, they would tell you they had no clue their sons would end up in ministry, let alone doing baptisms together! It was a cool service, 23 people in all were baptized. Thanks to our friend, John, we have a couple of wonderful photos to share with you. This was on the shore of Lake Ontario...going in....
And coming out...
"He is a new creation, the old has gone, the new has come" 2 Cor 5:17
Greg also ran into a couple of people from his years at Rochester Christian HS. Greg hadn't seen Jason Storm since those days, more than 20 years ago and there he was at family camp! The boy that Kaleb befriended happened to be Jason's step-son. The last night at camp they invited us over for supper and we were joined by George and Kathy Merz! George is another one from the Parkminster days and Kathy we met through Young Life. They are friends with the Storms and were visiting for the day. We had a great time of fellowship that night!
At the start of the week I had no idea what lie ahead. On our last night there Greg and I were walking back to the cottage and he commented to me "you've changed". He was referencing that I had sort of come alive as the week progressed. I was more out-going, more talkative, more joyful. I think I felt more myself than I have in a very long time. That makes me both happy and sad. Where has my old self been?? I hope it sticks around awhile.
Today the boys are headed to Covenant Acres Camp for the week. More of the new and old colliding. We arranged it so that they would be there at the same time as several of their old friends from Rochester. They have been looking forward to this week for a long time. I bet Kaleb will have a week where he feels more like his old self too. I can't wait to hear their stories!
Blessings!
Friday, June 26, 2009
How Fast They Grow!
As of yesterday, we officially no longer have an elementary student in our house! At the old school this day would have happened last year but here, the elementary buildings go to 5th grade. Kaleb did it! It was a proud day. The school held a lovely ceremony filled with awards and pizza.
As early as kindergarten, Kaleb has verbalized his dislike of school. I'm not sure what is not to like about reading, coloring and snack time but he told us just about every day that entire year that he hated it. I remember many tear filled mornings. For him and for me! At first I thought it was the teacher and that first grade would be better. It was, instead of the daily reminders we only got them several times a month. On the whole, I will say we have been very fortunate in the teacher department. Sitting still for hours on end is just not the best solution for any boy! It probably wouldn't shock you if I told you gym and recess were his favorite parts of the day. "Boring" was a frequently used word in his vocabulary. It took pretty drastic measures on my part last summer to banish that word, well, it's almost banished!
Learning doesn't come as easy for Kaleb and math is a not a favorite, to say the least. His teacher has said consistently that he shows great effort despite his troubles. She is very encouraged by his perseverance and is hopeful that soon it will all "click". That is our prayer. I know one day all those hours of quizzing the boys with math facts in the car will pay off. He is a great writer though and always has been. In first grade he would write 3 pages while the others kids were barely writing one. He has a great imagination. His classmates would get mad at him because the teacher would use him as an example of what they should be doing. God gifts us each uniquely, doesn't he?
Add to all that the fact that our move has probably been the hardest on Kaleb. He is a very social being. He had a few really good buddies in Rochester and after 2 years, he still hasn't quite found that here. We still arrange get togethers with his old friends and he emails and phones them, but he needs those roots here. His teacher tried to help steer him in the direction of a couple of boys and we are so grateful for her efforts. Our hope is that the middle school will afford him greater opportunities to meet kids since there are more than double the kids in 6th grade.
Mom is good to remind me that these are the days that bring us to the feet of Jesus. They sure do!
At the ceremony yesterday, he was given the Most Improved award for music as well as the Presidential Award for Academic Excellence. Those were unexpected which made it all the more thrilling! I told Kaleb he is obviously a better student than he thinks he is! That recognition gave him a bit of a boost. Us too, I think.
He is growing into a fine young man and I know God has special plans for him! He is loving and creative. He has a funny sense of humor. I love his giggle and his hugs. I love that he is becoming discerning. He is crazy observant!! He notices the smallest of details and remembers things way longer than I wish he did, lol! He is passionate over certain things, right now it happens to be hockey and Tech Decks. He brings us great joy!
Here are the proud parents with the newest 6th grader!
As early as kindergarten, Kaleb has verbalized his dislike of school. I'm not sure what is not to like about reading, coloring and snack time but he told us just about every day that entire year that he hated it. I remember many tear filled mornings. For him and for me! At first I thought it was the teacher and that first grade would be better. It was, instead of the daily reminders we only got them several times a month. On the whole, I will say we have been very fortunate in the teacher department. Sitting still for hours on end is just not the best solution for any boy! It probably wouldn't shock you if I told you gym and recess were his favorite parts of the day. "Boring" was a frequently used word in his vocabulary. It took pretty drastic measures on my part last summer to banish that word, well, it's almost banished!
Learning doesn't come as easy for Kaleb and math is a not a favorite, to say the least. His teacher has said consistently that he shows great effort despite his troubles. She is very encouraged by his perseverance and is hopeful that soon it will all "click". That is our prayer. I know one day all those hours of quizzing the boys with math facts in the car will pay off. He is a great writer though and always has been. In first grade he would write 3 pages while the others kids were barely writing one. He has a great imagination. His classmates would get mad at him because the teacher would use him as an example of what they should be doing. God gifts us each uniquely, doesn't he?
Add to all that the fact that our move has probably been the hardest on Kaleb. He is a very social being. He had a few really good buddies in Rochester and after 2 years, he still hasn't quite found that here. We still arrange get togethers with his old friends and he emails and phones them, but he needs those roots here. His teacher tried to help steer him in the direction of a couple of boys and we are so grateful for her efforts. Our hope is that the middle school will afford him greater opportunities to meet kids since there are more than double the kids in 6th grade.
Mom is good to remind me that these are the days that bring us to the feet of Jesus. They sure do!
At the ceremony yesterday, he was given the Most Improved award for music as well as the Presidential Award for Academic Excellence. Those were unexpected which made it all the more thrilling! I told Kaleb he is obviously a better student than he thinks he is! That recognition gave him a bit of a boost. Us too, I think.
He is growing into a fine young man and I know God has special plans for him! He is loving and creative. He has a funny sense of humor. I love his giggle and his hugs. I love that he is becoming discerning. He is crazy observant!! He notices the smallest of details and remembers things way longer than I wish he did, lol! He is passionate over certain things, right now it happens to be hockey and Tech Decks. He brings us great joy!
Here are the proud parents with the newest 6th grader!
Monday, June 8, 2009
Ack!! There's a Teenager in the House!
Joshua is officially a teenager today. I can hardly stand it, there is no way I am old enough to have a teenage son! I distinctly remember being 13 myself and it doesn't seem all that long ago.
When Josh was born, we were temporarily living with Mom and Dad on Hallock Rd. We were in transition, changing careers and finalizing our plans to move to Ft Lauderdale. There have been many miles and memories since that day! I remember Greg holding him like a football when he was born and now he is about to overtake me in height.
Josh is a wonderful boy, um, young man. We know this all on our own but we are also constantly reminded by others. He leaves an impression on people everywhere he goes. He has a love for children and they respond to him in a special way. We call him a kid magnet! He is kind and thoughtful, looking for ways to help others. He is an encourager, like his dad. He is Greg's right hand man at the Saturday evening church service, running the power point program. He is smart to boot! (that he must get from me, lol) He was recently named a Wilson Winner by his teachers for his good academics and character. We are so very proud of him!
Thirteen is a bit of a milestone and we wanted to mark the day in a special way. Last night for the teens weekly meeting, we had a pool party at the pastor's house and turned it into a bit of a birthday bash. Today, after school we piled everyone into the van and set out for Gander Mountain. Josh has turned into quite the sportsman, he really enjoys fishing and hunting thanks to Uncle Chris. My brother is tickled to have infected our son with the bug! It ties in well with many of the things Josh is learning in Scouts as well. He had outgrown the bow my brother had gotten him a few years back so it was time to upgrade to a more serious one. Chris directed us to a good option but it required a fitting as well. So, we surprised him with a little shopping trip. Chris and our friend Lynn helped out so we could get all the extras. Josh was thrilled to say the least! We took a couple photos when we got home.
Here is one with father and son...
Before you know it he will be driving, graduating and making his own way in the world. We are trying to soak up all the time we can. Greg and I are keenly aware that God has given us our children for a time and we are trying our best to train them up in the way they should go. We are intentional about teaching them skills and things they need to know to be successful in life. On top of it all, we are praying hard that God's grace covers us when we fall short. He does! He has richly blessed us with two wonderful boys and we are thankful!
When Josh was born, we were temporarily living with Mom and Dad on Hallock Rd. We were in transition, changing careers and finalizing our plans to move to Ft Lauderdale. There have been many miles and memories since that day! I remember Greg holding him like a football when he was born and now he is about to overtake me in height.
Josh is a wonderful boy, um, young man. We know this all on our own but we are also constantly reminded by others. He leaves an impression on people everywhere he goes. He has a love for children and they respond to him in a special way. We call him a kid magnet! He is kind and thoughtful, looking for ways to help others. He is an encourager, like his dad. He is Greg's right hand man at the Saturday evening church service, running the power point program. He is smart to boot! (that he must get from me, lol) He was recently named a Wilson Winner by his teachers for his good academics and character. We are so very proud of him!
Thirteen is a bit of a milestone and we wanted to mark the day in a special way. Last night for the teens weekly meeting, we had a pool party at the pastor's house and turned it into a bit of a birthday bash. Today, after school we piled everyone into the van and set out for Gander Mountain. Josh has turned into quite the sportsman, he really enjoys fishing and hunting thanks to Uncle Chris. My brother is tickled to have infected our son with the bug! It ties in well with many of the things Josh is learning in Scouts as well. He had outgrown the bow my brother had gotten him a few years back so it was time to upgrade to a more serious one. Chris directed us to a good option but it required a fitting as well. So, we surprised him with a little shopping trip. Chris and our friend Lynn helped out so we could get all the extras. Josh was thrilled to say the least! We took a couple photos when we got home.
Here is one with father and son...
Before you know it he will be driving, graduating and making his own way in the world. We are trying to soak up all the time we can. Greg and I are keenly aware that God has given us our children for a time and we are trying our best to train them up in the way they should go. We are intentional about teaching them skills and things they need to know to be successful in life. On top of it all, we are praying hard that God's grace covers us when we fall short. He does! He has richly blessed us with two wonderful boys and we are thankful!
Friday, May 15, 2009
A Good Night's Rest
The average American spends a third of their lives sleeping...that means 194, 821 hours! For the last year and a half, I have been falling behind on my sleep quota. It has been a very long time since I have had consistent, restful sleep.
When Greg and I got married we purchased a really good mattress and it served us well for about 12 years. The last year on that mattress was a bit iffy but we couldn't afford to replace it quite yet. When we found out we were moving to Ransomville, I told Greg there was no way we were moving that mattress one more time, 7 times was plenty!
Just prior to moving we bought a new mattress at Sam's Club. It was the nicest one they carried, well, at least the most expensive, and it was one we could afford. Yes, we tried it out, it was not a rash decision. We didn't use it until we moved and the first 2 months were quite nice. After that the back and hip pains started. I just thought I was getting old. I was/am. Then it was restless nights, waking up tired after "sleeping" for 8 hours. There were days I needed toothpicks to keep my eyes open! It had a layer of that much-touted memory foam on top but after just 3 months, there were deep pits on both sides of the bed. It was the kind of mattress that shouldn't be flipped but at one point we actually flipped it over and slept on the wrong side. It was a lot like sleeping on the box spring, but with an egg crate foam topper it was actually tolerable. Are you getting the idea for how bad it was??
I have muttered many unkind things to that mattress over the last year. I considered sleeping on the sofa many times. To say I was annoyed and ticked off is an understatement! Often during my sleepless episodes I would craft a mental letter to the Serta company spouting my discontent with their POJ (short for "Piece Of Junk!). What is a girl to do after owning a mattress for almost 2 years? We could not afford to buy another one but it was clearly reaching the point that we couldn't afford not to replace it!!
Last month I went onto the Serta website to get the customer service information so I could actually send one these letters I had mentally crafted. While browsing the site I read over their warranty information. I discovered our mattress had a 10 year warranty and perhaps our POJ qualified for a replacement. My heart skipped a beat! I immediately phoned Serta and the customer service rep asked me a few questions about the mattress... did I have a receipt, where was it purchased? We have to keep all household receipts for pastoral tax purposes so I was able to find the 2007 receipt, yeah!! She advised me to take the mattress back to Sam's Club and exchange it. What?? Obviously, the one bad part about buying a mattress at Sam's is that you have to haul it yourself. I was in a bit of disbelief so I called Sam's Club to verify. There was no way I was going to haul it down there only to be told sorry, Charlie! Sure enough, she told me to bring it in! Not only that, but because I had my original receipt I had the choice of replacing it or getting my money back. Thank you Lord!! It took a few days to find the time and a truck, but we hauled it back and right as rain, she gave me every penny back in cash. Good riddance!
We didn't dare look for a new mattress until we were sure we could get our money back for the POJ. After securing the cash, we headed to JC Penney where they were having a mattress sale. We tried out every model on the floor, at least 3 times! The lesson we learned was that we need a firm mattress, so after about an hour of debating we chose a Sealy Posturpedic firm pillowtop. Even with the sale, it was more money than the POJ but still much less than paying for an entire mattress. We told the salesman we had a truck with us to take it home. Imagine how disappointed we were to hear it would be 2 weeks before we could get it! I suppose it just makes this whole saga even more comical! Except that I am not laughing.
We went home and spent the next 2 weeks camping out in our own home. Greg on a cot and me on an air mattress. Yes, it made for a romantic anniversary! Yesterday, a big white truck pulled up in our drive way and unloaded our brand new mattress. The heavens were singing, I tell you! Well, at least I was. Greg is out of town for Annual Conference so I had the bed all to myself the first night. Ahhh, it was delightful. I am hoping to catch up on some of those lost zzz's really soon.
Now I wish I had called sooner but that is the lesson learned. Don't suffer through life with a POJ!
When Greg and I got married we purchased a really good mattress and it served us well for about 12 years. The last year on that mattress was a bit iffy but we couldn't afford to replace it quite yet. When we found out we were moving to Ransomville, I told Greg there was no way we were moving that mattress one more time, 7 times was plenty!
Just prior to moving we bought a new mattress at Sam's Club. It was the nicest one they carried, well, at least the most expensive, and it was one we could afford. Yes, we tried it out, it was not a rash decision. We didn't use it until we moved and the first 2 months were quite nice. After that the back and hip pains started. I just thought I was getting old. I was/am. Then it was restless nights, waking up tired after "sleeping" for 8 hours. There were days I needed toothpicks to keep my eyes open! It had a layer of that much-touted memory foam on top but after just 3 months, there were deep pits on both sides of the bed. It was the kind of mattress that shouldn't be flipped but at one point we actually flipped it over and slept on the wrong side. It was a lot like sleeping on the box spring, but with an egg crate foam topper it was actually tolerable. Are you getting the idea for how bad it was??
I have muttered many unkind things to that mattress over the last year. I considered sleeping on the sofa many times. To say I was annoyed and ticked off is an understatement! Often during my sleepless episodes I would craft a mental letter to the Serta company spouting my discontent with their POJ (short for "Piece Of Junk!). What is a girl to do after owning a mattress for almost 2 years? We could not afford to buy another one but it was clearly reaching the point that we couldn't afford not to replace it!!
Last month I went onto the Serta website to get the customer service information so I could actually send one these letters I had mentally crafted. While browsing the site I read over their warranty information. I discovered our mattress had a 10 year warranty and perhaps our POJ qualified for a replacement. My heart skipped a beat! I immediately phoned Serta and the customer service rep asked me a few questions about the mattress... did I have a receipt, where was it purchased? We have to keep all household receipts for pastoral tax purposes so I was able to find the 2007 receipt, yeah!! She advised me to take the mattress back to Sam's Club and exchange it. What?? Obviously, the one bad part about buying a mattress at Sam's is that you have to haul it yourself. I was in a bit of disbelief so I called Sam's Club to verify. There was no way I was going to haul it down there only to be told sorry, Charlie! Sure enough, she told me to bring it in! Not only that, but because I had my original receipt I had the choice of replacing it or getting my money back. Thank you Lord!! It took a few days to find the time and a truck, but we hauled it back and right as rain, she gave me every penny back in cash. Good riddance!
We didn't dare look for a new mattress until we were sure we could get our money back for the POJ. After securing the cash, we headed to JC Penney where they were having a mattress sale. We tried out every model on the floor, at least 3 times! The lesson we learned was that we need a firm mattress, so after about an hour of debating we chose a Sealy Posturpedic firm pillowtop. Even with the sale, it was more money than the POJ but still much less than paying for an entire mattress. We told the salesman we had a truck with us to take it home. Imagine how disappointed we were to hear it would be 2 weeks before we could get it! I suppose it just makes this whole saga even more comical! Except that I am not laughing.
We went home and spent the next 2 weeks camping out in our own home. Greg on a cot and me on an air mattress. Yes, it made for a romantic anniversary! Yesterday, a big white truck pulled up in our drive way and unloaded our brand new mattress. The heavens were singing, I tell you! Well, at least I was. Greg is out of town for Annual Conference so I had the bed all to myself the first night. Ahhh, it was delightful. I am hoping to catch up on some of those lost zzz's really soon.
Now I wish I had called sooner but that is the lesson learned. Don't suffer through life with a POJ!
Thursday, May 7, 2009
15 Years!
Fifteen years ago today, Greg and I got married. Where does time go? Some days it feels like yesterday and other days it feels like a life time ago.
When I met Greg he was going to MCC, getting an associates degree and working at Wegmans. Today he has a Masters of Divinity (and is seriously contemplating a Doctorate!! ack) , is ordained and pastoring in his 4th church. We have two wonderful boys who are growing up way too fast! We have experienced the passing of loved ones and found new people to embrace along the way.
Anyone that tells you marriage is easy is a liar. I have been stretched in ways I never thought possible and I am not just talking stretch marks from being pregnant either! But I will hands down say that being married to Greg has been the greatest blessing. He is a wonderful gift of God and I am so thankful to walk through life with him.
I searched through all of our photos and can't find a recent one of us together. We will have to work on that soon. For now, here is a photo of the day the journey began...
Look at us, kids I tell ya!
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When I met Greg he was going to MCC, getting an associates degree and working at Wegmans. Today he has a Masters of Divinity (and is seriously contemplating a Doctorate!! ack) , is ordained and pastoring in his 4th church. We have two wonderful boys who are growing up way too fast! We have experienced the passing of loved ones and found new people to embrace along the way.
Anyone that tells you marriage is easy is a liar. I have been stretched in ways I never thought possible and I am not just talking stretch marks from being pregnant either! But I will hands down say that being married to Greg has been the greatest blessing. He is a wonderful gift of God and I am so thankful to walk through life with him.
I searched through all of our photos and can't find a recent one of us together. We will have to work on that soon. For now, here is a photo of the day the journey began...
Look at us, kids I tell ya!
I changed my settings for leaving comments, so anyone visiting should be able to now leave one!
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